A cloud of cruelty is still hanging too much on our discourse, dull our souls and adding our worst trend.
I am not guilty of excluding anyone and I am calling a friend or staring at any art or expecting something. (“Shrinking” is fantastic.) Anything that reminds us why we are here, to love and love people and help people to laugh and laugh and beauty and when we can do it in the world Can add
Sex and advice columnist Dan Savez said it was better at the end of the January 1 episode of my podcast, “Savez Love”.
“Anyone who tells you to make time for happiness is a distraction or a betrayal does not know what they are talking about,” Savez said. “During the dark days of AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon and we danced all night. And this was the dance that put us in the fight because it was the dance for which we were fighting. ,
Fight to save what is precious. But do not ignore what is precious in this process.
So today I am fighting Tommy Tuberville.
Amidst calling a friend and staring at some art and staring at “shrink”, I Robert F. Kennedy completed the hearing of the confirmation of Junior and was disappointed to hear Alabama’s Republican Senator Tuberville, recalling about the corporal sentence.
“We have a problem of focus in this country,” said Tubberville. “You know, attention deficit, when you and I were growing up, our parents did not use a drug. They used a belt and killed our butt, you know, and told us, ‘Sit.’ ,
Cruelty clouds.
In his comment for Kennedy, the tuberculosis was mourning what he believes is an overlapping on drugs prescribed for the treatment of meditation-dot/overcrowding disorders. Only he loses all credibility when he almost indifferently, an image of being a big image using a belt to whip a struggling child.
Psychiatrist and writer Paul Hoalnar said, “This is opposite all the things we know about the development of children.”
I called Hoollnar to talk about Tuberville as Hoollinger is a vocal and consistent lawyer for the rights of children for protecting against physical punishment. Language as the foundation of his most recent book, “affected, cognition, and human development,” Hoolinar called the physical punishment “canary in the coal mine” because its disastrous results clarify the permanent effects of childhood experiences so clearly Are.
Hoollinger writes, “Killing a child negatively affects a parent, caretaker or other abuser, who does not want to produce in a child.” “Crisis, anger, fear, shame, hatred.”
A huge body of literature spread over several decades combines physical punishment with all the following, Hoolinar writes:
More anti -social behavior and crime as a child and young adult. More impulses. Less self-control. More risky sexual behavior as a teenager. More crime occurred as an adult. Abuse of more drugs. A high probability of depression. More violence against marital, cohabitation and dating partners. More violence against non-family members.
and yet. According to the National Education Association, the physical punishment in schools is still legal in 17 states and has been practiced in 14, and black students are four times more likely to experience it.
“Think about it in this way,” said Hoolinar. “If it is in school, it is okay to kill a child with a paddle. If you go 10 feet away from that school, that paddle is a weapon and the person can be accused of attack and battery. What are we thinking? ,
Similarly, if an adult removes a belt and starts whipping his spouse, it is a crime. But if the same adult kills them (very small, defenseless, nervous and still developing), is it a throw for a simple time?
No. This is the betrayal of your role as a parents, to protect your child from violence, to overcome them, and to guide them for knowledge and skills and equipment, when you yourself One needs to keep safe and healthy, when you “” not again. Whipping them with the belt do not do any of these things.
Sixty-seven countries have banned a complete physical punishment in any settings.
“The law alone will not protect children,” UNICEF wrote in a statement announcing Tajikistan’s recent ban. “However, legal sanctions have been shown an important first step in eliminating physical punishment. They raise awareness about its negative effects and send a clear message that harm to children, for any reason, is never acceptable. ,
I wish Tuberville offered an appendix to his comments. “On the lines of” … I thank something and now we know better than resorting to violence against children. ”
But he did not. So I will pass with this one, from an article of Editud Magazine, “ADHD is a real situation. You can’t beat it with a child.”
Family physician Oren Mason told the magazine, “ADHD crush families’ influence, health burden, increase in cost of SAP worker productivity and penal system,” family physician Oren Mason told the magazine. “People with ADHD and similar mental health challenges require inexpensive and available drugs, psychological support and education/work amendments. Parents require evidence-based guidance and training opportunities and relief. Teachers require evidence-based functioning and time to implement them. Physicians and coaches require training in most beneficial interventions. Scientists and researchers require funds and priority and demolition leadership. ,
And children need to grow up who do not increase violence against our most valuables, and tender, property.